My work is to sit down with individuals and help them explore more about themselves. I’m fascinated to hear people’s stories: their perspectives about life, what shaped their stories, and where they are heading with the stories they tell about themselves.
I also love a process called inversion. Simply put, you think in the opposite manner. For example, instead of working out what you should be doing, you go the other way: list down things you shouldn’t be doing.
Combining my love for hearing people’s stories and adopting an inverted approach to solve problems, I’ve learnt something about humans in general: it is easier to know what their priorities are based on the things they say ‘no’ to.
A lot of us find it hard to say no. So that makes saying ‘no’ a lot more deliberate action than saying ‘yes’.
If you wish to know your true priorities (and you may be surprised when you really think about it), try jotting down all the things you’ve said no to recently. That might be a better route to understanding yourself and the type of person you are becoming.